October 14, 2017
People with multiple best friends don’t understand the meaning and purpose of a best friend.
On this National Best Friend Day it’s easy to get caught up in the lovey dovey moments of having a best friend. Often neglected is what makes a person a best friend. You may have your own opinion on how to determine a best friend, if you don’t… here’s my qualifications and understanding.
My rule, only one best friend per person. People with multiple best friends don’t understand the meaning of a best friend. Before you take to social media to challenge my rule, allow me to explain.
“He/She was supposed to be my best friend”! How many times have you heard this uttered from the lips of an emotional person? If you watch three episodes of any smut filled talk show it’s said more times than not. Reason behind it, people are quick to stock pile best friends.
A best friend is a level above a friend, 10x above an acquaintance.
There are three levels of people, 1-those that come into your life for a reason; 2-those that come into your life for a season, 3-those that come into your life for a lifetime. A true best friend will stand out from the crowd of those that have come into your life for a lifetime.
Best friendships are similar to relationships. They will have their good and bad times. When the dust settles after a dust up, does the friendship stand stronger or weaker? Can you openly express yourself without judgment, even if they disagree? Can you trust your best friend and has that trust been trialed? Furthermore, outside of your blood-relatives, is your best friend the first person you call in an emergency and will they respond? Just some things to consider when you give or accept the title of best friend.
Having a best friend is hard too. Just like relationships they require time to build, cultivate, maintain and nurture.
My life as an internet talk radio host and entrepreneur puts me in front of many people. Some may appear to have best friend tendencies. You’d be surprised at how often I’ve become a victim of my own rule. I’ve given the best friend title to multiple people and it’s ended with “he was supposed to be my best friend” cry.
I honestly can count on one hand how many true friends I have and I only have one best friend. I’ve known him for many years but just in the last 18 months we have crowned each other best friends. Why? We stood the test of time. He stood with me when I was strong, he propped me up when I was weak. He’s seen me through the good and bad. And I the same with him. When I’m in pain, he’s in pain. When he’s in pain, I’m in pain. I hate to see him struggle and I have no reservations about risking my own well-being for the sake of his. That’s why I only have one best friend.
Want to meet him, he sits on my right hand side every Thursday night.
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